Mistletoe

 Surprised! Such a weird name for an article. Mistletoe, what does it mean? It's a type of parasitic plant. A parasitic plant is a plant that obtains all or some of its water, nutrients, and other requirements by attaching to and drawing from another living plant, known as the host. This is a symbiotic relationship where the parasitic plant benefits at the host's expense. It's necessary for the parasitic plant to survive, but can we think about what happens to the host tree? The host tree or plant can experience varying degrees of harm, including reduced growth and disrupted physiological processes. That means the host tree may not survive because of the parasitic plant. 

Can this phenomenon be extended to humans as well? Do we observe parasitic people around us? Those who make use of others for their own benefit or growth have selfish motives that can make it difficult for the ones who are hosting them. They might be pouring negativity into the host's life or distracting them from their goals or aims in life if you're the host. These things might be intentional or unintentional, but of course, these parasitic people in your life can affect your life very badly. 

If you observe such people around you, then what should you do?

 I believe self-care and self-protection are the first duties of a human being. 

To protect oneself, one has to take action against such parasitic people in their life. So, have the courage to stay away from such people or gain the strength to fight their negativity or influence. This small gesture of self-care will lead you to a brighter path. Unfortunately, host plants can't act against these parasitic plants, but as humans, we can. So, please don't ignore and beware of such parasitic people in your life. Stay away from them and progress towards your life goals. 

This isn't about being selfish or not helping anyone; you can, of course, help others within your limits. That's our duty as humans, too. 

This is an effort to make you realise the presence of these parasitic people, if any, in your life, who are depleting your energy and influencing your life negatively. You need to take preventive actions to survive, glow, and grow.

Happy living!!

Arundhati

Destined

Whatever is destined to happen- it will happen!!!

Such a big statement, and heavy too!!

A small story around it..

Siya was sitting peacefully sipping her morning hot tea and her phone rang. She was at peace as morning rush was over, kids were on the way to school, husband went to the office. She thought of having a tea and then after an hour or so had planned to start her work. 

Puzzled by seeing unknown number on the phone, she picked. It was her daughter. She called from someone else mobile as she forgot hers at home. That also she realised only after boarding the bus. 

She sounded a bit panic to Siya.. after hearing her, Siya realised what had happened. Siya’s son used to travel with her sister, everyday to school by public transport. And he forgot his school bag in the bus. Siya appreciated her daughter’s  presence of mind to inform Siya immediately whatever happened. Siya asked her to relax, go to school, and mange both of their lunches and breakfast. Also, requested her to inform her son’s class teacher about he not having his school bag as well as lunch bag with him. Her daughter must have done as instructed, as she was quite matured and a responsible girl. 

Siya registered the complaint on lost and found department of transport office and meanwhile tried to keep the track of the bus in which he forgot his bag. In an hour’s time Siya got a call from the bus dept that the bag had been found and deposited in their main office. The main office was just few stops ahead of kid’s school. Siya was wondering that she had to travel now to the main office and get the bag. 

A day before her son requested Siya to drop him to school, but Siya had some important office work so she asked both of them to follow their own routine. And see what happened now..she had to go with the same bus and same route to collect his bag…

Was it destined for her to travel in that bus…. Siya started thinking.

Soon, she was ready to go.. and finally boarded the bus which was destined for her for that day!!!!!

Arundhati

Love or Like in my terms

 ‘Love’ or ‘Like’ in my terms

Exothermic Like and endothermic love, 

Seem to denote the chemical changes with a smiling curve

Like is smooth reactions occurring in nature,

Love needs special catalyst, pressure and temperature

Le-Chatelier said equilibrium shifts to right or left,

Wondering which side each one to be kept

Like makes it all homogenous,

Love is meant to be heterogenous

Like is reactive and shiny as a metal,

Love has nothing to do with periodicity found in the table

Like is an anode, positive terminal of the cell,

Love is a cathode, metal deposition there needs no story to tell

Charge bearers, protons and electrons,

Love is prone to decay and like is a neutron

It’s all about chemistry with Like or Love,

Maybe, Like is spontaneous and Love is a shove

Arundhati

Zeal

 Zeal

I saw a post on fb while I was having my morning tea. 

It said about boredom in mid-age; that is 40’s.. I got puzzled for a second, does it really happen?

 

And it triggered my thought process and pushed me to pen down something. 

What exactly it feels when someone says ‘ getting bored in life’? 

I guess it feels like not having any zeal, positivity towards life. Energy-less life will of course be boring. It follows science too. We all have learnt law of conservation of energy. Based on it, if we are not putting any energy, we won’t get or feel that energy in any aspect. 

Let me elaborate my point. 

If we look at boredom, one of the reasons could be monotonous routine/ life one has. Or I can say each day is on autopilot mode. 

If nothing new is happening in life then of course there will be some laziness or disinterest towards life.

Now, what to get this ‘NEW’ in life?

Simple ways according to me:

1. Start challenging yourself. Keep some aim or goal. Of course short term goals, so you will have pleasure of achieving those. E.g. if you are not very regular in exercise then plan/ try to be regular in it. Plan your day accordingly. This small goal may give you different perspective and fill some enthusiasm in you. While doing this please keep it in mind that the goals should be short term and achievable, very drastic challenges may not serve the purpose. 
2. Another way could be start learning something new which you don’t know at all or had a dream of learning it but couldn’t do yet. Like gardening, cooking or know more about galaxies anything of your interest. Start learning about it via some classes or books or information from google. May be you will get to know such facts that may ignite your thoughts and attitude towards life.
3. Most of us can’t pursue our hobby as we are running behind our dreams and stability. Now, this is the time. Whatever you couldn’t do or gave up, please try to pursue that again. Your hobby will keep you motivated, energetic, interested in life.

Importantly, we should keep ourself busy. Let me put it in some mathematics form.

It’s proven that frequency of negative thoughts is quite high compared to that of positive thoughts.

It’s almost 100:1

100 negative thoughts and 1 positive thought. That’s the ratio for any human being unless one has mastered his/her thought process. 

So, if we are not busy that means we are bound to think. And obviously resulting in mostly negative thoughts. That withdraws energy possessed by us and instead gives disinterest, negativity, lack of enthusiasm. 

Concluding, keep your brain busy and active by the things which interest you: may be work, social activities, reading, writing, art, music, dance anything which is creative, innovative. This will give you the zeal which is missing….

Stay busy, Stay happy!

Happy living!

Arundhati 

Gift of self-defence

 Gift of self- defence 

This beautiful thought came to my mind when I was talking to my daughter and were discussing about different flowers, animals, birds… then realised a but obvious thing that every animal, bird or even flower- plants have been gifted by its own special self defence technique. The god or almighty is so kind that it has made survival of every living being easy by gifting some natural self defence technique. If this is true for all living beings then we are also not an exception!!

Each one of us has got something special in us which will help us to survive. We just have to understand what’s that about self.

We experience a lot of different incidences as we live in the society.

E.g someone is too harsh with us and every time we speak to that person and he or she puts us down. So, we get hurt emotionally. Now, can we use our defence technique and not allow that person to hurt us. 

sounds great right!!

What we need to do for that? 

We just have to see what works best for us in these type of situations for not getting hurt. 

Use your own self-defence technique.

Often experienced bullying, overpowering by closed ones or by any random person can be stopped or minimised by using the gift we have received from the almighty. 

Everyone is unique and different in its own way!! We just have to understand and explore ourselves and figure out what gift we have got!!!!

This will certainly help and protect us from any unwanted debates, discussions, fights and so on…

So, don’t feel helpless or don’t cry, just trust the almighty and yourself, and find your own defence technique. 

I am sure once you find it and start using it, the life will become much much much easier. 

So, let’s get started!!!!! 

I am also trying to figure out mine…

Happy living!

Arundhati

एक बशी

 एक बशी

एक साधाच प्रसंग डोळ्यासमोर घडला आणि हे विचारचक्र सुरु झाले. एका कार्यक्रमाला गेले होते. जेवताना माझ्या जवळ एक लहान मुलगी, तिचे वडील आणि आई असे बसले होते. घडलं असं, की त्या मुलीच्या आईने त्या मुलीला अमुक एक पदार्थ हवाय का? असं म्हणत स्वतःच्या ताटातील तो पदार्थ तिला देऊ केला. यावर त्या मुलीने आईला विचारलं, की तुला नकोय का? मी चमकून तिच्याकडे बघितलं. इतकी छोटीशी मुलगी हिने असं का बरं विचारलं असेल? म्हणजे आईला नकोय म्हणून तीने आपल्याला देऊ केला असं वाटलं का त्या मुलीला….

आणि तसंच असेल तर…. 

तसंच द्यायचं असतं तर तिने तसं म्हटलं असतं ना, मला नकोय तू घे म्हणून…

नाही का! 

इथून जे काही विचार सुरू झाले ते ह्या पोस्टवर येऊन थांबले .

 कशी गम्मत आहे ना….स्वतःला नको असलेली गोष्ट सहज देता येते इतरांना. पण स्वतःला हवी असते तरीही त्यातला थोडा हिस्सा द्यायला कितीजणं आनंदाने तयार होतील….

आणि ह्या सगळ्या विचारात एक प्रसंग आठवला हा प्रसंग म्हणजे कधीतरी एकदाच घडला असं नाही बरं, हे रोजचंच होतं. माझ्या इंजिनिअरिंगच्या शिक्षणासाठी मी माझ्या आजोळी राहिले होते. माझ्या आजोबांचं आणि माझं खूपच चांगलं ट्युनिंग होतं. जेव्हा कधीही ते चहा पीत असायचे, आणि तेव्हा मी तिथे आले की त्यातली एक बशी ते नेहमीच मला द्यायचे. ते म्हणतं की ‘एक बशी आण’ त्यांच्या प्रत्येक चहातली एक बशी माझी. अर्थातच चहा करताना मी तिथे नसायचे त्यामुळे माझ्यासाठी चहा केलेला नसायचा. पण त्यांच्या चहातील एक बशी मात्र माझी असायची…. त्यांना तर चहा अतिशय प्रिय होता. दिवसातून कितीही वेळा चहा चालायचा त्यांना. इतक्या प्रिय चहातील एक बशी माझी असायची म्हणजे अर्थात त्यांची प्रिय ‘मी’ होते चहापेक्षाही….. 

कळलंच की मग सगळं… 

मला तर माझी बशी मिळाली, आता विचार करायचा आहे की मी कुणासाठी तरी ‘ती एक बशी’ असू शकते का…….

                                           अरुंधती

A companion

 A Companion

Such a wonderful word it is! But it’s more beautiful when we experience or live it. I feel this word is as equivalent as LIFE. That means the ones who play this role are as important as LIFE.

Each stage of our life or for that matter any living being’s life is made beautiful by its presence. Who is it? 

A companion…

How to define it? 

A companion is the one who makes our life more beautiful, livable, meaningful, and exciting. It is the one who stands for you, takes care of you, gives you strength and becomes your support system. Or just be with you! 

At different stages of our life, we have different people, surroundings, things… aren’t they our companions then!!!!

A companion can be short term, long term, entire life or even after that….

A companion can be in any form, like humans, pets, plants, trees, gardens, surroundings etc.

I remember the plant which was in my small garden blooming with most beautiful and fragrant flowers. It started its journey from the seed. I have seen it growing from seed to sprout to little plant and now growing and growing …..

Whatever time we spent together, lived together made our best companionship.!! We shared a part of life, shared emotions, motivated each other. A true and cherishable  companionship! I guess a plant lover can understand!!! 

FAMILY suffice the meaning of a companion. If I say Family= companion, then it won’t be wrong. There can be some exceptions….!! I can understand. 

All those friends, classmates even teachers in our childhood days, school days, college days have given us best companionships. 

Can a person’s belonging be its own companion !!!! It’s a very different thought… but I feel our profession/ work occupies a large part of our life. 

As per our profession or work, some or other things are close to our heart, then automatically it becomes a companion. Right!!

A broad thought came to my mind, can a person be its self companion. Yah.. possible!

Those who are mentally, emotionally strong, stable, well connected and attached with self can be their self companions. Isn’t it!!

This is a wonderful companionship a person can have. Can we take a step towards this type of companionship!!

A few days ago when I was thinking to write on this, I realised the most important companion fortunately I have in my life is GURU. When GURU is there, everything will be fine. That’s the confidence I have. That’s the beauty of this word. It gives you unconditional love, support and strength. A GURU will never leave you alone, not in this life and never! That’s the best companionship one can have!!! 

Be blessed!

Happy living!

                                               Arundhati